Some Thoughts @ Life
Wednesday, May 8, 2013
Dreams or just screwed up realities....
Wednesday, January 30, 2013
Life and other shit!!!
I had never really been in a serious relationship till now. The fantasy of a relationship is very different from the harsh reality of it. Cause two people whose hopes and dreams have to merge into one. And everybody has different agendas and priorities. You may settle on some, but what happens if two people get into a relationship whose core priorities are completely different. You may love one another but is that really enough? How important is compatibility?
A friend told me that the first 11-18 months of a relationship is like being on cocaine. Your brain releases the same chemicals that are released when u do cocaine. But eventually the passion fizzles out and
what you are left with is two people sharing a room. So its better to have someone who has the same likes an interests as you. The problem with that approach is that first off it is difficult to find someone
who has the same likes and interests as you in the opposite sex.(Especially if ur a geek like me.) Girls are hardly ever interested in sci-fi and electronics. And secondly same likes and interests does not equate to liking the girl. Also using that logic a relationship can only be evaluated 18 months down the line.
You need to be a serious sociopath to be that cold as 18 months down the line u evaluate and if not compatible you move on.
So that approach doesn't work from a practical standpoint. Then how do u evaluate a relationship 3-4 months in. You like the girl. Maybe even love her. How do you know if she is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with? Logically speaking you have very little in common with her. But in all probability you are never going to get a girl who loves you as much as she does. She is willing to accept you for who you are. She is willing to do anything for you. Isn't that enough?
I always used to think that in marriages girls are younger than guys cause their parents force them into marriages earlier. I now realize that true though it may be, girls do mature earlier than guys. Maybe that is what causes the age differential. A guy at 30 is as mature as a girl at 25. Thats probably why most college and school romances fail. Cause a girl realizes what she wants while the guy is still looking. Maybe he realizes later that the looking was pointless. But that only comes with maturity. Which is the whole point.
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Sunday, December 19, 2010
Jokes imitating Reality
BTW This was the joke. PS: I have replaced the word New Yorker by Dusad in the joke.
A Frenchman, an Englishman and Dusad are exploring the jungle and are captured by a fierce tribe.
The chief tells them, "The bad news is that we've caught you, we're going to kill you, and then use your skins to build a canoe. The good news is that you get to choose how you die."
The Frenchman says, "I take ze poison." The chief gives him some poison; the Frenchman says, "Vive la France!" and drinks it down.
The Englishman says, "A pistol for me, please." The chief gives him a pistol; the Brit points it at his head, says, "God save the Queen!" and blows his brains out.
Dusad says, "Gimme a fork." The chief is puzzled, but he shrugs and gives him a fork. Dusad takes the fork and jabs himself all over -- the stomach, the sides, the chest, everywhere. Blood gushes from every hole.
The chief screams, "What are you doing?"
Dusad looks at the chief and says, "So much for your canoe, asshole!"
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
Life Unexpected
Sunday, September 27, 2009
Changing Lanes
Monday, December 29, 2008
Casablanca
I watched Casablanca for the first time today. It’s a good movie. The thing that it most made sense to me in that movie is difficult to explain. I won’t try to hard too anyway. But it changed something in me. I was in love once. Almost everybody who knows me knows who it was with. It didn’t work out, for various reasons. It wasn’t really like Casablanca, infact it wasn’t at all like Casablanca, she was never in love with me. But we had something. Then it was over. I did what any guy did when he is heart-broken. Drank like hell and tried to forget that it happened. But life doesn’t really work out that way. I was sure I would never fall in love again. But I was wrong. I haven’t fallen in love if that where you think this is going. Don’t really have any girl in my life right now to fall in love with. But what I realized is that I could fall in love again. Sooner or later it will happen (I hope). And when it happens I won’t look back. People see Casablanca and interpret it in a million different ways. This in a twisted way is my interpretation. Love can happen again given the right person. I am waiting for mine...
Saturday, November 22, 2008
Fidelity
Even sticking to the higher plane of love, is it so very obvious that you can't love more than one person? We seem to manage it with parental love (parents are reproached if they don't at least pretend to love all their children equally), love of books, of food, of wine (love of good scotch does not preclude love of a cool beer), love of movies, poets, holiday beaches, friends . . . why is erotic love the one exception that everybody instantly acknowledges without even thinking about it? Why can a man not love two women at the same time, in their different ways? Whats so wrong in it?